Picture this: You’re in a mind-numbing team meeting, PowerPoint slides flickering like a bad disco, when suddenly — BAM! — your eyes lock with that colleague who somehow makes PowerPoint slides look like Hollywood blockbusters. Welcome to the wild world of workplace romance, where your next presentation might lead to marriage vows.
One of my all-time favourite shows is Suits (and no, it’s not just because of Harvey Specter’s swagger). If you haven’t watched it, it’s a cheesy, over-the-top American drama about a New York law firm where everyone solves billion-dollar problems or navigates dramatic love triangles.
Meghan Markle (one and only, the Duchess of Sussex) plays Rachel, a paralegal who marries her colleague Mike Ross after surviving a whirlwind of secrets and betrayal. Romantic, right?
Let’s step away from Pearson-Specter-Litt into the real world — or better yet, Nigeria. Here, work-life is less glamorous and more “generator humming in the background,” but who’s to say you can’t meet your future spouse in a Teams meeting?
Let’s be honest: finding love in Nigeria can feel like an Olympic sport. Some people are on their thousandth “talking stage,” while others are ready to send a PDF titled “About Me” just to skip another round of annoying and pointless “tell me about yourself” chats.
But is falling in love at work a fairytale waiting to happen — or a career-ending disaster? Let’s find out!
The Appeal of Workplace Romance
There is a common saying “In God we trust, others bring data” so let’s use data to back why dating/marrying a colleague is a thing.
According to the International Workplace Dynamics Survey (2023), 42% of professionals globally have engaged in workplace relationships and 11–16% of workplace relationships progressed to marriage.
Let’s face it: proximity is a major ingredient in the recipe for romance. You spend 9+ hours a day with someone, bonding over mutual complaints about Nigeria’s power cuts, endlessly buffering internet and the office microwave that makes your lunch taste like burnt dreams. Add a shared laugh over the HR memos no one reads, and boom — you’ve got the perfect setup for workplace chemistry.
Now, if you’re in Lagos, where commuting feels like a Hunger Games audition, the office might even be the only place where you meet new people. And let’s not forget that love thrives on shared struggles. Is there a better bonding experience than surviving Monday morning traffic together, and still managing to show up looking halfway decent?
But before you start drafting wedding hashtags with your colleague’s initials, let’s pause and consider the risks. The same workplace romance that leads to butterflies in your stomach can also lead to burnt wings. Because… drama.
First, there’s office gossip. Trust us Nigerians to turn even the tiniest hint of a relationship into Instablog news. Your colleagues might start calling you “Mr. and Mrs. Procurement” or “Accounts Power Couple,” and before you know it, everyone from HR to the security guard knows your business.
Then there’s power dynamics. Dating a coworker is one thing, but dating your boss? That’s not just office romance; that’s entering Game of Thrones territory. In Africa, where hierarchy is taken very seriously, these relationships could raise eyebrows and suspicions of favouritism.
And don’t forget the breakup fallout. If things don’t work out and you get served breakfast, seeing your ex every day at work is the emotional equivalent of walking barefoot on Third Mainland Bridge.
Tips for Surviving Workplace Sparks
If you’re determined to mix business with pleasure, here are a few survival tips:
- Maintain professionalism — Don’t lose your steeze because of butterflies.
- Know the Policy — Some companies have specific rules about office relationships. Make sure you’re not violating any guidelines
- Set Boundaries: Keep the romance out of the office. No PDA during team meetings (you can control yourself).
- Plan for the Worst: Hope for a fairytale ending but be ready for potential awkwardness.
My Verdict
Like Nigeria’s electricity supply, office romance is unpredictable. When handled with care, it can be a beautiful story of love found in unlikely places. But if managed poorly, it can leave your career, and your heart, in shambles.
As Africans, we’re used to navigating life’s complexities with humor and resilience (Fela’s called it “Suffering and Smiling”). Love at work is no different. Whether it’s a spark that leads to a lifetime of fireworks or flames that fizzle out, remember this: even if love doesn’t last, your career (and reputation) should.
Disclaimer: So, next time you feel the sparks while staring at a colleague’s flawless outfit or presentation, ask yourself: Is this worth the HR headache — or could it be the beginning of my own “happily ever after” story? Either way, remember love may be a risk, but sometimes, the best things in life come with a little gamble.
Now, back to that never-ending meeting of “Can you see my screen”.
Fine read 💯, you’ve really sharpened your flow Kore
Interesting and quite entertaining. Good take-aways also embedded…well done guys!
Quite an interesting read.. Actually love at work place can be very fascinating at first, but if not handled properly, those sparks cabln cause a wildfire. 🤣