Lucky Girl Syndrome

I once told my colleague that when I am in a rush to get somewhere, all traffic lights that I encounter turn green for me, and when I arrive at my destination, convenient parking spots always become available for me. She thought [and said] that I was being dramatic until she witnessed it happen not once but the two times that she joined me while I drove. She said she would have continued in disbelief at what I said if she hadn’t seen it herself. In awe, she asked how I did it. “I just tell the universe what I want and confidently believe that it would happen. I never worry about how it would happen; I just expect it to happen”, I told her.

A few days later, we had to meet up at an event. Parking was abysmal, per usual in Lagos, and of course, I got a great parking spot. My colleague was running a few minutes late but soon joined us. Another colleague who had struggled to get parking asked where she parked, to which she replied, “I just tried Moyo’s technique. I said I wanted to find a parking spot and I found one”.

This phenomenon can be called luck, faith, or the law of assumption, depending on what you believe in, but I am of the opinion that we all have the power to create the type of life that we want, as our belief systems and mental attitudes play a key role in influencing outcomes in our lives.

Let’s take a closer look at these concepts.

Lucky Girl [or the gender you identify with] Syndrome

This is a psychological state where people unwaveringly believe that they are inherently lucky and that good things naturally happen to them. This is the school of thought that I subscribe to, and while I am not an overly religious person, there is a bible verse that I believe backs this up and that I also refer to when an outcome seems “unlucky”. The verse is Romans 8:18, which states “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.” I always believe that everything eventually works out for my good. This belief can lead to increased confidence and a positive outlook, which in turn can result in more favourable outcomes due to the following underlying mechanisms:

1. Positive Expectancy: By believing you are a lucky person, you will automatically expect good things to happen, which will influence your behaviour in ways that make positive outcomes more likely. PS: this is like the law of cause and effect.
2. Optimism and Resilience: When you have lucky syndrome, you are often more optimistic and resilient, which helps you to better cope with setbacks and to persist in the face of challenges.

Faith

Ah yes, Faith! My mom would love that I’m talking about this. Not to be confused with hope, faith implies a strong belief in something, often without empirical evidence. According to the bible in Hebrews 11:1, faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen. In many religious and spiritual contexts, faith is a profound trust in a higher power or the inherent goodness of the universe.  Faith can have several effects:

• Emotional Support: Faith can provide emotional comfort and reduce anxiety, leading to a more positive mental state.
• Motivation and Purpose: Believing in a higher purpose or divine plan can motivate individuals to pursue their goals with determination and a sense of mission.
• Community and Support Systems: Many faith-based communities provide social support, enhancing individuals’ resilience and overall well-being.

I am not a huge fan of faith, but I think that is largely because I am not a huge fan of religion. I often see that the fervently religious ones who subscribe to the concept of faith often WAIT for something/ someone outside of themselves to get something done, forgetting that James 2:14-26 says that “faith without works is dead”. There’s also the fact that I believe that religion is a tool used to control the masses, Napoleon Bonaparte said it best when he said, “Religion is what keeps the poor from [unaliving] the rich.”

Law of Assumption

The law of assumption is a metaphysical principle stating that assuming a specific reality as true will cause it to manifest in one’s life. This is grounded in the idea that the mind shapes reality. I also subscribe to this way of thinking and its key aspects, which include:

• Assumption and Manifestation: By assuming the feeling of the wish fulfilled, you align your thoughts and actions with the desired outcome, potentially bringing it into reality. I love to manifest and I do it very often to reinvent myself just by imagining and detailing the new person I want to become, then doing everything I need to become that person; down to how she dresses, reacts to situations, talks to people, carries herself, etc. I promise you, it works.
• Positive Thinking: This principle encourages maintaining a positive and confident mindset, which can influence actions and interactions in ways that lead to desired outcomes.

These three concepts correlate in three ways:

1. Belief and Expectation: All three concepts emphasise the power of belief and expectation in shaping a person’s experiences. Whether it’s believing in luck, having faith, or assuming a desired reality, the underlying mechanism is that what we deeply believe influences our actions and reactions.
2. Mindset and Behavior: Each concept highlights how a positive mindset can lead to behaviours that create favourable circumstances. A person who believes they are lucky has faith, or assumes their desires are fulfilled is likely to take more confident and proactive steps, increasing the likelihood of positive outcomes. Our chairman always emphasises the importance of having a positive mindset, and trust me, it makes a huge difference between a winner and a loser.
3. Self-fulfilling Prophecies: The idea of a self-fulfilling prophecy is central to all three. By believing in a positive outcome (whether through luck, faith, or assumption), people may unconsciously engage in behaviours that bring about those outcomes. For example, I find that when I react to a situation out of fear of a certain outcome, my actions ALWAYS cause that outcome to happen. It took a ton of therapy and shadow work for me to learn how to just let things happen, and to pause on the impulse to react to a less than ideal situation while feeling a low-vibration emotion.
4. Resilience and Coping: Faith and lucky girl (or boy, or they, or it) syndrome both emphasise resilience. A person with strong faith or a belief in their luck is better equipped to handle setbacks, seeing them as temporary or part of a larger plan, which aligns with the persistence encouraged by the law of assumption.

I’m going to conclude this article by reiterating that if you foster a mindset that anticipates positive outcomes, you are more likely to experience such outcomes, whether through psychological effects, spiritual beliefs, or metaphysical principles. You are the creator of your life. This is backed by John 10:34 where Jesus said “Is it not written in your Law: ‘I have said you are gods’?”.

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk. *Drops Mic 🎤*